One of the heaviest words and themes we hear in our offices is grief. Grief comes as a result of loss. The most obvious is grief related to a death loss, however we also grieve the loss of ended relationships with romantic partners, friends, and family. We grieve voluntary and involuntary job loss and transitions. We grieve the loss of our ability through injury or illness. Grief and loss isn’t about just death, it’s about change.
Your Room for Change counselor will help you navigate the intense and sensitive feelings that often accompany grief and loss. We will assist you through how to honor what you had while also forging a life that incorporates the loss. We can choose the way we are healed, even when we cannot choose the way we are hurt.
We believe people heal the strongest not when they let go of the people or things they are grieving, rather finding a new connection to that lost relationship or finding a way to incorporate the change. Although we cannot reconnect with someone physically who has died, we can reconnect with their lasting legacy through memories, hobbies, and sharing their spirit with others we meet. And although we cannot always bring back a version of ourselves that was able-bodied, we can find a way to value and use the strengths we all embody.
In many cases grief and loss doesn’t include sadness and we counselors know that. We welcome and walk you through all feelings related to loss. Sometimes those feelings include relief, guilt or regret, anger, happiness, and more. We wish we could tell you how to walk through grief in a step by step fashion, however what we have learned is that grief (like many things in life) isn’t the same for everyone. There are no steps or stages. When we just allow the process to unfold naturally from a space of curiosity and compassion, those feelings become less confusing and easier to manage.
Allow us to help you or your loved one better understand the depth of the loss and begin healing. Give us a call.